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You Like What You Like
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If you are a compliant person who likes to connect with others and make them happy, you might sometimes struggle to express your own opinions. But the principles of boundaries show you that your opinions, even your likes and dislikes, are what makes you, you.  They are the line in the sand between you and others.  This is good and healthy. I remember going...

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Boundaries are Biblical
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  Are boundaries Biblical? Yes. I believe they are. The Bible records Jesus’ life on earth as a time of endless ministry with miracles and teaching.  Yet, it also records that on occasion, he went away by himself to pray.    He had to refresh his inner well by communing with the Father.  He was bringing physical and spiritual healing to the needy, yet...

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Boundaries are not Selfish
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Aren’t boundaries selfish? I get it.  It will probably be your first response as you learn about boundaries.  It was mine as well. And it’s a fair response, but stick with me because it is a false dichotomy. Our priorities are our most sacred people and places.  Think about your life in terms of concentric circles, with the smallest one in the center.  Imagine...

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Only My Plate
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Only My Plate

Jan 21, 2018 by

Not long ago, a student walked into my class when it wasn’t his hour to be there.  I had already had him for English that day, yet he waltzed in during another English hour, presumably just to “hang out.” He was sorely disappointment when I promptly sent him on his way. “But I’m bored!” He whined as he was ushered back into the hallway....

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When You Hate to Disappoint People
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  It’s true that when following the principles of healthy boundaries, you will disappoint people. And you will say no to things you used to say yes to.  And certain people won’t like that. At all. All of that is true. And all of that is worth it. My kids have this Kool-Aid stuff they love. It comes in a tiny bottle and it’s...

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Finding Peace in Boundaries
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I found my peace during the crazyness of Christmas between the long arms of the treadmill at the gym. That makes it sound like I logged a lot of hours there, which would be false.  I did not. But I did go sporadically and when I found myself either walking or jogging on the treadmill, I found peace in shrinking all the concerns of...

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Dry
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Dry

Jan 17, 2018 by

Everyone is dry. I smear colorless, scent-less Aquaphor under Susanna’s nose, above and below my own lips, on the bumpy red splotches of Isaac’s eczema behind his knees. Lotion, chap stick, hand cream, coconut oil… the same heat that makes our homes cozy dries out our fragile bodies. Spiritually, I feel dry, too.  Two Sundays of illness without the benefit of listening to the...

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